We all have heard of what is emotional manipulation? signs of Love bombing in a relationship? But have you ever experienced that in you real life?
If not then this post can be an insight for you with all your needs. I have explored more about the signs of love bombing with its ever green red flags.
“You will evolve past certain people. Let yourself.” – Mandy Hale, ‘The Single Woman: Life, Love, and a Dash of Sass’
“5 Early Signs of Love Bombing"
Hello My beautiful Cheers!
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In recent time...
Have you ever felt as if your partner is showering you with a lot of attention and affection?
Is you relationship has suddenly transformed into a beautiful fairy tale?
Sounds crazy and unbelievable, Isn't!
Well, its good if this stays for ever. But what if I say that these are the sweet techniques and the early signs of love bombing.
Yes! emotional manipulation.
I know Honey this sounds hurtful, but I want you to understand the situation before investing your emotions in any relationship.
It's ok, if you're still not clear with my point. Be with me till the end of this post I will get you all the scenario and signs of love bombing over text.
So, with no delay let's get started!
What is Love Bombing? - An Overview!
“If you look for the bad in people expecting to find it, you surely will.” – Abraham Lincoln
Love bombing is when your partner overwhelms you with,
- Excessive display of love, compliments, cute gestures,
- Flattery, expensive and emotional gifts,
- A lot of promises with too much of attention that you can go crazy,
Now, all this is just to manipulate and control you.
In psychological terms this is an intense form of attention, that is mostly used by individuals to obtain control over their partner in a relationship.
Most of the times, these kind of tactic can give rise to the sense of dependency and vulnerability where the partner feels week to make any decision of their choice.
In general, people get so emotional with these signs of love bombing that they forget to recognize the red flags.Hence, they avoid to address each others needs to have a healthy and balanced relationship.
Understanding What are the Signs of Love Bombing!
“A good relationship is when someone accepts your past, supports your present and encourages your future.” ― Karen Salmansohn
Now, at the start, you might be in an illusion of being in heaven where you're showered with super gifts and compliments making you feel on top of the world.
But hold on, "not all that glitters is gold."
This could be one of the early signs of love bombing. Yes! where people always need some sort of approval at every step that they're the best.
But guess what? the true loving heart never needs a show off, they will let their action speak for them. As a result the kind-hearted souls gets into the trap and fall for the trick of these narcissistic.
Now, if this interest you then keep reading here I have a lot in detail which can let you know whether you're caught in a love bombing whirlwind or not.
Top 5 Early Signs of Love Bombing!
1) You're constantly receiving grand gestures, missing authenticity in the connection
"Unbalanced Relationship"
“No partner in a love relationship… should feel that he has to give up an essential part of himself to make it viable.” ― May Sarton
All of a sudden if your partner has planned for some surprising dates or showering you with gifts for no reason, then they is a possibility that they're using the technique of love bombing "emotional manipulation."
Here, you everything is done with a reason, where you're obligated to return the favor.
Don't get me wrong, grand gestures are nice, but if they're too frequent and too extravagant, it might be a red flag in a relationship.
2) You're being put on a pedestal, almost in a fairy-tale where each projection denotes love at first sight.
"The Marriage Portrait"
“Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.”― John Mark Green
When your partner puts you on a pedestal, it might seem like a dream come true, I know this can be an exciting moment for you.
But, you must understand life is not a fairy tale. Certainly, this is not healthy in the long run.
One of the great concept of love bombing is "Idealizing you."
This can make you feel like as if you're the only thing that matters for them in their life.
Believe me it's the most simple and easy way to isolate you from the world - your loved ones family and friends, making you fully dependent on them for all your emotional and financial needs.
3) Your partner is too good to be true, remember that there is no Mr or Miss Perfect in the world, everyone has their flaws.
"The Perfect Marriage"
“If you’re in a relationship and all you do is cry, you need to stop and ask yourself, are you dating a human or an onion?” ― Karen Salmansohn
If your partner seems too good to be true, then they probably are.
Love bombers are the skilled manipulators who know how to mirror your preferences and present themselves as the perfect partner.
However, this is all a facade to gain your trust and control you.
But believe me it is not possible for any body to act as Mr/Miss. Perfect for more than 6 months as per human psychology.
4) You feel like you're walking on eggshells, be careful these tiny pieces will hurt you sooner.
"The Perfect Marriage Book - Marriage Vows"
“Don’t light yourself on fire trying to brighten someone else’s existence.” ― Charlotte Eriksson
Love bombers are not only skilled at manipulating, but they're also skilled at making you feel guilty.
Yes! The feeling of guilt is powerful enough to give death to a person till they are alive.
So, this technique is often used as a passive-aggressive tactics to make you feel like you're the problem in the relationship.
Making themselves a victim in the relationship will always leave you with the feeling of being a cruel giant who is walking on eggshells.
5) Your partner is rushing the relationship, you don't have time to breathe with your choice.
"Sense of a Toxic Relationship"
“Toxic relationships are like a good pasta that has been overcooked.” ― Asa Don Brown
If your partner is moving too fast in the relationship, then their is a chance that they're trying to control you.
Love bombers often rush the relationship by saying "I love you" too soon and never a chance to you to think and analyse them.
They make future plans without involving your inputs.
Even if we ask them for the explanation, they will through emotional word bombs on us making us feel vulnerable -- obligated to stay in the relationship.
Identify & Stop the Signs of love bombing over text!
Here are some of the tips that you can use to escape yourself with self-awareness.
1) Set your boundaries to void love bombing
"Self-awareness with healthy boundaries"
“Thinking of you is a poison I drink often.” ― Atticus
Whatever be the relationship it's always better to set boundaries.
Healthy boundaries in a relationship can extend its survival period which is often good for you as well as for your partner in a relationship,
Hope, this makes sense!
So, if you every get a proposal where you have been treated with some much romance with no time to think over, then follow this,
- Try to be grounded immediately and
- Don't react to the situations in the first place
Things you must do,
- Good to have a conversation with them and
- Let them know that you want to take things slowly and steadily,
- Mostly to have better understanding with respecting each other’s views and thoughts
Now here is the point,
If the person is genuinely interested in you and wants to invest in the relationship with you, they will understand your views and stop pressuring you further with the relationship.
2) Build trust first before making the person center of your world
"Trust Relationship"
“Stop setting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.” ― Unknown
If you can role your eyes around, most of the people try to get disconnected from their long-term friends once they get into a relationship.
Now, this sounds very common. But, this is the red flag in a relationship and a green flag that indicates that you're with a narcissistic person and soon your relationship can become a toxic one.
Yes, the toxic relationship where the things are played with emotional mental level.
Now, here first remember never to change your preferences as to check out on your friend. In other words, don't adjust your schedules with your friend for a new love interest.
I am not telling to be straight on their face but be clear with your own "ME TIME."
Try to be yourself, because you can never change others but only yourself.
To have a better understanding about your partner, I prefer you to include them in your friends group so that they can be aware of your strong healthy friendship.
3) Never try to validate yourself to this person
"social-emotional well-being"
“A bad relationship can do that, can make you doubt everything good you ever felt about yourself.” ― Dionne Warwick
Well, I know it feels to be in heaven when someone treats you like a treasure, especially when they have chosen you among all their other options.
Now, here comes this is something you need to be aware of, if any situation arises where you have to validate yourself -- be clear to take your stand.
Yes! Just because they have chosen above all other, does not mean they you have to be vulnerable to them and have to go with their choice all the time leaving your self-worth.
Remember the hunger to feel special and important is the cruel narcissistic attitude.
Final Thoughts!
However, I believe that I have unmasked many scenarios that are commonly found as early signs of love bombing.
So, If you're experiencing any of these signs in your relationship, then it's important to seek assistance of some relationship counsellor and try to distance yourself from the relationship if you're in the starting stage.
Remember, love should never feel like a bomb that's about to explode.
Its the feeling that every soul desires for. So, be clear on what you want in a relationship to have a healthy lifestyle.
Stay Blessed!
